“Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?”
Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment.And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’
— Matthew 22:36-39
There is something unsettling about how familiar these words have become. “Love the Lord your God” and “love your neighbor as yourself” are among the most quoted lines in the Christian tradition, and perhaps among the least allowed to disrupt our habits. We embroider them on pillows, frame them on walls, repeat them in sanctuaries and speeches—and then step back into public life as though Jesus had offered a slogan rather than a command. But this passage from Matthew is not decorative. It is demanding. It insists that devotion to God cannot be separated from the way we treat the people who live beside us, work among us, vote differently from us, or suffer where we have the luxury not to look.
Jesus does something breathtakingly simple here. He cuts through religious performance and moral bookkeeping. He does not say the greatest commandment is to appear righteous, defend our tribe, or win every argument. He says the whole life of faith rests on love—total love of God, and practical love of neighbor. That means the test of our spirituality is not only what we profess in worship, but what kind of people we become in the world. A society may have plenty of religious language and still be spiritually impoverished if it has grown comfortable with cruelty, indifference, or the contempt that is typical of MAGA and Donald Trump.
This is where the verse becomes politically and socially inconvenient. Loving your neighbor is not a sentimental feeling reserved for those who are easy to admire. It is a moral commitment that must reach across difference, fear, grievance, and division. It asks whether we are willing to build communities where dignity is protected, whether we will tell the truth about injustice, and whether we will refuse the easy intoxication of hatred. Love, in this sense, is not softness. It is courage disciplined by compassion. It is the stubborn refusal to let another human being be reduced to a problem, a stereotype, or an enemy beyond redemption. It refuses to demean or discard any person who bears the image of God. Jesus did not say, “Love your neighbor as yourself”—unless they are different from you, inconvenient to you, or costly to defend. If people are to hear the gospel from us, they must not first be persuaded that we despise them.
We are called to love our neighbor as ourselves, without qualifiers, exemptions, or escape clauses.
In an age of outrage, this commandment sounds almost absurd. We are trained by Fox News and TV political commentators to curate outrage, monetize division, and mistake humiliation for moral clarity. Yet the command to love our neighbor remains one of the most radical ideas ever spoken into public life. It understands that a nation, a church, or a family cannot be made whole by pretending wounds do not exist; they must be named, tended, and transformed. This includes the wounds of history, or slavery and disenfranchisement, of discrimination and of intentional cruelty, often done by people who were in Church on Sunday and sometimes endorsed by Christian denominations that were created expressly to defend wrongs such as human slavery. We in the Church have much to repent of.
Perhaps that is why these verses still confront us. They leave no room for a faith that is loud about God and quiet about neighbor. They expose the emptiness of piety without mercy, conviction without humility, and religion without generosity and kindness. And they test us most sharply where love is least convenient: in our treatment of those we dislike, those we distrust, and those the wider culture has taught us to dismiss. If we want to honor this text, we must do more than admire it. We must let it interrogate our politics, our prejudices, our priorities, and our silences. The greatest commandment is not merely a summary of belief. It is a summons to become the kind of people through whom love enters public life, refuses contempt, and bears witness to Christ without exception.
And this command becomes most revealing precisely where our affections run thin. It is one thing to love the agreeable neighbor, the grateful neighbor, the neighbor who reflects our values back to us. It is another thing entirely to love the person we find irritating, unjust, dishonest, or deeply wrong. Yet Jesus does not permit us to confine love to personal preference. To love our neighbor as ourselves means we do not delight in their humiliation, deny their humanity, or treat them as disposable simply because we dislike them. It means we restrain our contempt, refuse revenge, tell the truth without cruelty, and remember that obedience to Christ is measured not by how warmly we feel, but by how faithfully we act.
The same is true of those who are politically unpopular. Loving our neighbor does not require agreement, endorsement, or silence in the face of harm. It does require that we resist the temptation to treat any person or group as unworthy of dignity and of respect because they are ridiculed, blamed, or costly to defend. Jesus did not say love your neighbor as yourself unless he is an immigrant. Jesus did not say love your neighbor as yourself unless he is gay. Jesus said the second greatest commandment is to your your neighbor as you love yourself. Christian love is tested not only by how we treat the sympathetic, but by whether we will uphold the dignity of those whom the crowd has decided to despise. If “love your neighbor as yourself” means anything in public life, it means we reject unchristian “us vs them” thinking that demonizes people who are made in the image of God. “Us vs Them” thinking promotes division, hate, and violence. At it’s extreme, “Us vs Them” thinking leads to war and to genocide. When we love our neighbor as we love ourselves, we fulfill the commandment and we reduce hatred. We reduce fear. And we reduce the likelihood of violence. You can love someone whose theology or behavior you disagree with. In fact, you are commanded to do so. You do not love them when you treat them poorly, support legal discrimination or harmful practices against them, or when you fail to follow the Christian spiritual practice of hospitality. Hospitality is a tangible outworking of the Gospel, a lived-out command to love strangers, foreigners, and neighbors as a reflection of God’s welcome. The older I get the more I believe in just loving people where they are at, unconditionally. We do more preaching with our actions than with our words.
Dr. Beaux Bonhoeffer
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